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You are Enough

You are Enough

I just wanted to remind you this week that you are enough, you have achieved enough, you have loved enough, you have contributed enough, you are enough.

I don't know about you but I am sometimes pretty hard on myself. I'm always looking at what I could have done, how I could have done better and comparing myself with people who seem to be doing better in life than I am. 

"How do they have time to do that?" I ask, "How do they fit that in on top of all the other things they have to do? How can they make that work?"

And if I'm feeling weary and tired I question myself and tell myself to keep going no matter how I'm feeling.

"Why are you tired? There's no reason for you to be tired, you're just going to have to keep going," that perfectionist voice inside me says.

And I know that this way of thinking is the building block to anxiety and conflicted feelings and yet, even after all these years of meditating I find myself listening to this un-constructive voice and giving it more power than it deserves.

Last week I had a very long "To Do" list and yet I felt really tired and it was taking me longer than it should have to complete easy tasks.

I decided to go rogue and take myself down to the beach for some much needed quiet time. I made my way to the sand dunes and climbed to the top and lay there in the spring sunshine, listening to my breath.

At first I was beating myself up for all the things that I should have been doing but slowly the breathing started to slow my mind down a little and I was able to hear the waves and feel the gentle wind on my skin and watch the birds as they circled in the blue sky above me.

After about twenty minutes I felt calmer and more in tune with the natural world around me. I felt that nature herself was recalibrating my thinking into a calmer and more receptive state. From here I was able to see my life from a different perspective. I was able to see (and feel) the many blessings of my life, and this gratitude grew as I lay in the sand dunes doing absolutely nothing.

In the past, I may not have even allowed myself to do such a frivolous thing in the middle of a work day, but I knew from past experience that this time I took, would be more valuable than any other more immediately constructive work I could do.

This week, my wish for you (and for myself) is that we take the time we need to feel balanced and peaceful. That we give ourselves the rest and replenishment we need, free of the guilt that sometimes stalks our most precious moments.

Take an inventory of all you have done for others this week (your family, your work colleagues, your friends, your pets) and also consider all the ways you have made the world a better place.

You are so much more precious and worthy than you think. You are doing so much more than you give yourself credit for. You are spreading love and kindness in the world. You deserve to take some time to rest your body and mind.

You are beautiful

and you are enough

you are enough

you are more than enough.

Can we please rest in this knowledge for even a short time this week?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Our Mother

Our Mother

 

Our Mother

beneath our feet

blessed be your name.

 

Your wisdom come

your love be felt

on earth

that we can make it a heaven.

 

Give us today our daily compassion

and forgive us for loving ourselves too little.

 

Lead us not into separation,

but bring us to balance;

for thine is the earth

the wonder and the beauty,

for ever and ever.

 

Living in Aotearoa/New Zealand we have a special relationship to the land and the nature that surrounds us. One day a few years ago, when I was living on Karitane beach I came up with this feminine companion to the Our Father and called it Our Mother. It is a simple prayer, but I feel that it has great power in that it balances the masculine imagery and energy that we have come to know so well, with the lesser known but no less important feminine perspective.

Most of us can recite the Our Father, which is at the heart of all Christian spirituality. This prayer has given me great comfort over the years as has the Hail Mary.

But as I have grown and evolved I have been questioning more and more the lack of feminine influences in the Christian spiritual tradition. Things are slowly changing and Pope Francis is finally speaking out on behalf of Mother Earth, but there is a long way to go.

I love this prayer and bring it to mind whenever I feel the need to feel the relief of the ground beneath my feet, or be comforted by the compassionate feminine energy embodied in nature.

I share it with you in the way it was shared with me...in the  spirit of love, balance and increased compassion for our world.

My latest batch of soul stones are inspired by this prayer and many of them carry words and phrases found in the simple prayer above. They act as a reminder of the love and beauty that surround us, and they bring us back to simple truths that we are sometimes too busy to remember.

Thanks so much for reading and I hope you take some soul food with you through the rest of your day x

 

Trump, Tom and Freedom Song

Trump, Tom and Freedom Song

This week a dear friend shared with me that a brilliant young man we both know (let's call him Tom) has recently become radicalised to alt right philosophies and was keen to attend speaking tour of Canadian alt-right speakers Lauren Southern and Stefan Molyneux in Auckland recently.

I was shocked to hear this, as the young man in question is sweet, smart, savvy and very polite. Not that this means he is immune to hate speech and the philosophies that go with it, but because I finally knew a real person who believed these ideas and he didn't fit the bill of my preconceptions one bit.

There is lots of anger out there in the world and according to my 14 year old son there are lots of young, white men who feel threatened by feminism, immigration, government interference and many other things. And there is a concerted campaign on social media to gather and harness this anger and hate and make young people passionate about changing things in all the wrong ways.

WhenI was at University it was all about the Women's Room, and fighting for Palestinian human rights, and listening to ever more alternative bands in the quad and local pubs.

We were free to think what we wanted and to form our own opinions while the government paid our fees.

Things are so very different now. University is a business decision and kids are making choices based on what will buy them their first house, rather than an ideological ideas about what the world actually needs in order to move forward.

I've no doubt that kids are much smarter than we were at the same age and in the long run I have great faith in the way the way our society will grow, change and evolve over the next few generations.

But thinking of lovely Tom becoming passionate about such hateful ways of seeing the world broke my heart a little. It's so easy to live in our own little bubbles of those who think the same way as we do, and who echo back our own views of the world.

But to make a difference and to counteract the tribalism and "us and them" mentality that is growing globally we have to be prepared to really listen to those on the "other side" and understand where they are coming as much as we possibly can.

Judgment is easy, but what is not easy is to really open up a compassionate dialogue with someone whose views are polar opposites of our own. There must be valid reasons why Tom feels the way he does and if I can understand them, and then help him understand them then I have hope that we can bring more true compassion into our world.

We live in uncertain and volatile times and perhaps Tom just wants to put his trust in something, to rely on something that will not keep changing and will give him a sense of purpose in the world. Perhaps he has been wounded by a woman, or by his mother, who was wounded herself and so he is threatened by feminism and all that represents.

All the things that separate us come from a lack of love. When love is present we can embrace each other and find our common ground. When we are lacking in love we see this lack all around us, we are angry and we want to bring justice to the world and to make others pay for the wrong that has been done to us.

And it doesn't matter whether we are left of left, or alt right, this lack of love and the wrong decisions that it leads us to, take us further away from each other and from a world that is kind and free and sustainable.

My new book Freedom Song embodies my hopes for the future in exactly this way. It is all about the strange, disconnected times we are living in, and asserts that if we can drop our judgments of one another we will see that we are all fundamentally the same.

Love is not some esoteric, romantic word, it is the strongest and most difficult and powerful word in any language. It is also our only option, our only way forward, our only way back to ourselves and each other.

I truly believe that love and compassion can work magic. I want so much to gift Tom a copy of Freedom Song, and then ask him to let me know his thoughts.

I think I'll do just that and let you know how it goes.